Posted: 09 Mar 2010 10:56 AM PST
“A phrase that really resonates for me was dropped into my head a few days ago: “Feelings First”. I don’t know if this is used often elsewhere or by other people…it really resonated for me when it came though…to honour the importance of feelings in any given situation – that’s what comes first – my feelings, your feelings, the feelings of those around us…it doesn’t matter how much money is at stake, the potential gains, or how much you might want to do something for some set reason…if the feelings aren’t flowing in a way that feels optimal, then maybe another path might be a wiser choice…
For example, let’s say that in a couple, one partner really wants to do some certain activity right now, like doing the laundry or washing the car…and the other person is not feeling good, for some reason. In my experience, it is much wiser to address the feelings first…clear the emotional block and then usually things can flow on much more easily from there…whereas if there is a choice instead to try to bypass the feelings and push on with the other activities, whatever they are, the uncleared feelings may stagnate, infest, get more complex and even maybe explode at some other point. The washing can wait – as much as you might want to do it right now, it will still be there in 10 minutes or so and how much lovelier it feels to proceed in an atmosphere of clear, healthy emotional resonance, rather than with the feeling that there is a thorn in the shared emotional bubble…you might think that stopping your intended flow to clear the emotional field is going to ‘slow you down’ in some way, yet in my experience the opposite is usually true overall – taking the time to clear the air first empowers a much more loving, productive space to unfold from there, with everyone feeling good…so…simply put: “Feelings First” 
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One thing that really rang true from me, from Angela’s words, were, in wondering what to eat, or when to eat, or how much, go with your feelings first – no numbers. Not the numbers on the scale, or the counting calories, just….how do you feel after you eat a certain food. And go with that.
